Awaken to You for Moms

Did you ever ask the question, "Who am I now? Am I just a mother?" as you find yourself in the thick of motherhood with the little ones and trying to balance it all.  Or, did you ever wonder if your busyness in motherhood takes away from you being able to fulfill your individual life mission?  Did you ever wonder what your personal life mission is anyhow and how to figure it out? Did you ever wonder if your involvement in your personal mission and things you care about take away from your ability to be a "good mom?"   In today's episode of the podcast, we are going to address all of this and more!  We are going to see how your motherhood mission and your personal life mission actually complement each other--and how to make that work practically in your life.  This is Part 1 of our mini-series on motherhood and our life mission. In this part, we define the process of figuring out your personal life mission and we also define your motherhood mission.  Stay tuned for more juicy episodes!  If you want help identifying your personal life mission and aligning it with motherhood, feel free to book a complimentary 1:1 call with me at https://coachbayla.com.  

I tell a short story about how my day went on Sunday and how it was headed down the tubes when I decided to ask myself this one question... 

In this episode, we are going to talk about the first thing that always gets cut out of our lives when we start to feel too busy--play. We are going to explain why it's so important NOT to cut play out. And we are also going to cover simple ways to make life more playful. We will cover the primacy of play and how it positively impacts all areas of your life: your health, your relationships, and your work life. We define play and recognize that it is a basic need for flourishing.  We also go through each of the benefits of play in detail, including how it makes you more productive at work, brings you more connection in your relationships, and helps lower stress levels. We then go through numerous examples of how you can easily add play into your already busy schedule. Have a happy play day, mamas!

In this week's episode, I define the emotional quality of quiet space and how to create it in your life. I walk you through the past few weeks in my own life, where I have been actively carving out more quiet space and I show you just how I do that. I discuss the three questions that lead to creating more quiet space:  1. What do I want to put on pause at this time? 2. How can I make this simple? 3. What do I want to add more of into my life right now?

In this episode, I teach what you probably already knew intuitively but have never heard explained before--and that is that there’s no such thing as work-life balance. It’s a lie.  Work-life balance is a lie because balance implies a qualitative and quantitative equivalence between work and life, which simply isn't true.  Work-life balance creates a false dichotomy because work is an integral part of life. Work and life are fluid. They're always moving and we have to learn to move with them, instead of forcing ourselves into some unnatural balance that we think we’re supposed to be in. If you want guidance on designing a life (and worklife) that works for you and your family, schedule a free coaching mini-session here. 

In this episode, I talk about why the self-care myth is harmful. It's that myth perpetuated on social media that says if you just take a bubble bath and read a good book, that'll fix things. Well, it won't, and that's because true self-care is about understanding and fulfilling our underlying physiological and psychological needs.  I define self-care. It's so much broader and deeper than bubble baths and good books. Self-care is really about our needs, so we have to know what those needs are. I define those needs for you. I talk about how we each fulfill our needs differently, and we learn how to do that by experimenting with what works for us. If you want help implementing, book a free discovery call with me here: https://bit.ly/3p7FaA2

I'm going to teach you how to have more time by making time your friend. This is an important episode because this is the number one issue that I encounter from moms--not having enough time. The three main points I cover in this episode are:  You're in a relationship with time. How you think about time matters and will influence the results you get with your time. How you interact with time matters too.  I give you practical tips on how to have more time and how to have a better quality of time by making time your friend. Enjoy!

In today's episode of the podcast, I'm going to teach you the missing step that most of us who have been practicing emotional awareness are still glossing over. And it’s important because this step is the KEY to rewiring our neural pathways, so that we have fewer and fewer triggers that lead to anger, pain, resentment, and other undesirable emotions. This is my favorite episode so far! This is the foundation of everything I do with my clients. So, I hope you love it and find it as useful as I do.  Always feel free to reach out for extra support or to schedule a mini-session and see how this is put into practice here: https://coachbayla.com

There are two types of difficult: unproductive difficulty and productive difficulty. I'm going to teach you the difference between the two. This is for you, especially if you are starting a business, changing jobs, learning a new parenting style, or going through any major change in life right now. Unproducitve difficulty is when you keep trying to change the painful situation you're in, but the key is that you are still getting the same undesireable results in your life. Productive difficulty is when you are experiencing the difficulty of growth and the pain of transforming yourself and your thoughts, but the key is that you are getting the results that you want for your life. Listen in to find out the three steps to being in productive difficulty and why this is the key to getting ANY result that you want for your life.

In the last episode (Part 1), we explained what the Superwoman Complex is and in this episode we are going to explain what the CURE is for those who are stuck in the Superwoman Complex. So, the superwoman complex is the belief that we need to do it ALL as mothers. We need to show up perfectly and fully at all times in every role, including but not limited to our role as mother, wife, house manager, career woman, daughter/sister, community member, and more. It is that unnatural, perfectionist voice of the Inner Critic that pushes and bullies us to success.  So, today, in Part 2, I discuss 4 main points that form the cure for the Superwoman Complex and that rest on the cornerstone point, the fundamental point, that underlies the entire cure. That is, speaking to ourselves in the voice of the loving Inner Mother on our way to success. Without this, these other 4 points are moot. Now, those 4 points that form the cure: Treat time as your friend. It is about quality not quantity. It’s not enough to know your values, you must LIVE them every single day. Even if it’s 10 minutes at a time. It’s not about WHAT you’re doing, it is about HOW you’re doing it: the energy that you’re in and the way you show up in the world. Be aware and be willing to meet your own NEEDS.

Today, you're going to learn all about the superwoman complex, what it is and how to know if you're experiencing it. This is important because many of us will go through the superwoman complex at some point in our lives and many of us are living with it RIGHT NOW! We think that feeling overwhelmed, feeling exhausted, and not understanding how everybody else is doing it, is just a normal part of the motherhood process. I'm here to tell you that it's NOT, and it doesn't have to be that way. So, what is the superwoman complex? The superwoman complex is the belief that we need to do it ALL as mothers. We need to show up perfectly and fully, at all times, and in every role. I will cover 4 major points that you need to know in order to understand the superwoman complex: We are living within “the rigged system” which sets us up for failure. We don’t account for our needs. We don’t accept or understand the process that we’re in as mothers. We don’t process our emotions and instead we “buffer” them away. Stay tuned for next week, Part 2, where I walk you step-by-step through the process I take my clients through in order to CURE the superwoman complex.

In today's episode, I'm going to teach you why you should be striving for “emotional wholeness” instead of happiness. I’m really excited to share the concept of “emotional wholeness” that I’ve created which has helped me and my clients to attain a deep sense of inner peace and contentment. I start with a beautiful quote by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross. Then, I cover three main points: Emotional wholeness is about accepting all of your emotions and where you are right now in your "emotional season." There are two main types of emotions we experience: what we perceive as desirable and what we perceive as undesirable. There is a richness of emotion for a reason. There are “emotional seasons” in life that mimic the physical seasons we experience with the weather. In addition, I share exciting NEWS. Stay tuned to the end (and if you want a sneak peak, go to https://coachbayla.com/awakentoyou to find out what I have in store for you!)

In today's episode of the podcast, I'm going to teach you how to remain present, even in highly stressful situations, by managing your emotional temperature. I'm going to explain what your emotional temperature is and why you'll want to remain present in a highly stressful situation (there are BIG benefits!). Then, I'm going to walk you step-by-step through a real life example that happened to me last week, when I was in the hospital with one of my kids who had a nasty stomach virus, and I was in a high stress situation. Whether you're in a high stress situation right now, or it's just a nagging thought that won't let you go, this can help. If you want to apply these teachings directly to your own life, go to https://coachbayla.com where you can find out how to work with me.

I'm going to teach you about what happens in the brain with each baby we bring into the world. We've learned that not only do our bodies prepare for our babies, but our brains also do! We will cover the topic of mommy brain and what that actually means. We will cover the difference between the brain of a biological mom and an adoptive mom (which isn't much, as you'll see). We'll also cover what it means to be in this process and how long it lasts (longer than you think!). 

In today's episode of the podcast, I'm going to help you identify when you might need a therapist vs. a coach. This is an important topic and it's absolutely imperative that you understand the difference. Disclaimer: I am a certified coach. I am not a licensed therapist, and I do not practice therapy. This episode is solely my opinion, and I highly suggest you always err on the side of caution and seek out a doctor or therapist, if you think you may have a possibility of needing therapy.  Important Resources:  Postpartum Support International Hotline: 1-800-944-4773 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 (I recommend you save this number in your phone, as I've done. I hope you never need to dial it, but it may just save a life.)

In today's episode, I'm going to be teaching you how to prepare for the holidays with ease, simplicity, and joy, rather than pressure, panic, and stress. It will help you whether you're preparing for Shabbos on a weekly basis or you're preparing for Thanksgiving this week. You don't want to miss this lovely bonus! Let's get started!

Are you head over heels in love with your baby, and yet you don't quite feel like yourself anymore? You're overwhelmed, overworked, and simply exhausted. You understand on an intellectual level that motherhood changes you, but you don't quite know how to get back to feeling like yourself. In today's episode of the podcast I'm going to teach you how to feel like yourself again and tell you a story about my experience in motherhood. *In this episode I talk about "not feeling like yourself" in a space where you don't have PPD. If you suspect that you might have PPD, please seek help from a licensed mental health counselor.  www.coachbayla.com

In this podcast, I help burnt out moms of young children to feel like themselves again. I will help you expand and embrace your new identity now that you're a mom and expanding your family. I will help you learn how to listen to your Inner Knowing, gain control of your circumstances, and embrace your new and beautiful identity. To work with Bayla directly, go to: www.coachbayla.com