Sex Savvy Certified Sex Therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson

This episode will delve into both the organic and psychological risk factors for erectile dysfunction. Kimberly will discuss a range of treatment options available for ED. She will share her views on why men in their twenties struggle to get (and keep) it up. The pros and cons of sexuo-pharmaceuticals, such as Viagra, will be discussed. Kimberly will describe the cultural pressure that men experience to be good in bed, and how it makes them vulnerable to sexual dysfunction.

Why is the human penis so much larger than other primates’ penises? Why does it have such a funny and odd shape? In this episode, Kimberly educates her listeners about penile size, shape, and overall prowess. She introduces the concepts of Sperm Competition, Last Male Precedence, Semen Displacement Theory, Health Benefits of Semen, Refractory Period, The “Coolidge Effect,” and Semen Viscosity (relative to female promiscuity). Kimberly quotes research from leading evolutionary biologists to add context to her discussion of penile function and natures miraculous counter adaptations to infidelity.

In this episode, Kimberly introduces her listeners to painful sex. She defines different terms associated with chronic pelvic pain including dyspareunia and vulvodynia, offers statistics on chronic pelvic pain, and gives some clinical examples from her sex therapy practice. She identifies common worries and concerns that women often experience during and after chronic pelvic pain. Kimberly also describes the four potential psychological traps that she has identified based on her work with couples who are dealing with sexual pain. The four traps are 1) The Credibility Issue, 2) Throwing the Baby Out with the Bath Water, 3) De-erotization, and 4) Post-Clearance Collusion.

In this episode, Kimberly answers questions from her listeners about common misperceptions (and red flags) about sex therapy for couples; the prevalence, risk factors, and psychological meaning of ‘golden showers;’ motivations and willingness to perform oral sex; the potential sexual consequences of infertility; and the growing erotic fascination with female ejaculation (also known as ‘squirting’). As usual, Kimberly discusses these (sometimes taboo) subjects with authority, honesty, and compassion.

In this episode, Kimberly interviews marriage and family therapist Jess Levith about her treatment of women with out-of-control sexual behaviors through a cultural and historical lens. To provide context, Kimberly gives a brief overview of how attitudes toward sex in general; and female sexuality in particular, have changed over the centuries. Ms. Levith discusses how some women pathologize themselves (or are pathologized by their partner, family, society, etc.) based on gender stereotypes about Birth Control, Sexual Imagery, Economic Parity, and Intersectionality. She also describes the six pillars of sexual health (based on the World Health Organization definition) and how she uses these concepts with women to help them asses their sexual behaviors, thoughts, and feelings.

In this episode, Kimberly interviews Dr. Marni Feuerman about her new book “Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy Relationships.” They discuss how awareness of your personal attachment style and psychological boundaries from your family of origin can help you avoid relationships with unavailable men. They comment on how ‘Limerence’ (AKA infatuation or transcendental love) can impair judgement in the beginning of a new relationship and how it allows women to ignore red flags that should not be ignored. They discuss the author’s list of Dating Do’s and Don’ts. They talk about the author’s list of classic ‘types’ of men who are unavailable and how to identify them. Finally, they offer common excuses that married men give to affair partners to justify their behavior, such as “my wife doesn’t have sex with me” or “she’s always depressed, negative and in pain.” This episode also contains a Sex IQ Quiz.